How do I earn the love and obedience of my child?

 

The child is susceptible to the judgment due to his feelings and

 abstract feelings, the mother

 may find her child a few minutes after meeting someone related to 

him and get along with him as soon as he directs him nice words,

 plays with him, or gives him a gift or candy. Raising  children is a

 "hard job", says mothers everywhere in the world. There is no 

doubt that the  reward behind it is great and great. Each parent 

wishes to earn the love and obedience of his children, but some of 

them are ignorant of what are the ways and ways to do so.

Tips If applied with your children from the age of one year to

 adolescence, you will win their love:

When your child comes to you and starts asking questions, you 

should encourage him to ask and think, and do not worry about it    

 and show him your interest. And if you do not know the answer,

 tell him that you will search for the answer, and you can search

 with him for the book or through the internet. We are here to send

 him many messages through simple behavior.

 Avoid shouting at your child as much as possible, for any reason,

 and do not get into trouble.

 Who among us does not want his son to mention him with a good 

mention? If we use the method of shouting for guidance and 

education, they will remember this image in their minds whenever 

they mention you.

Make your child feel how important he is to you and that you love

 him worse by talking by saying (I love you) (You are my precious 

child) (You are my soul), and indeed like hugging,kissing, and 

patting on the shoulder and not just by giving gifts, and do not use

 conditional love with him or blackmail his love.

When you ask your child to help you with anything like caring for 

his younger brother or helping you clean the house, thank him and 

encourage him for whathe did and pray for him.

Sometimes one of your children is distinguished either for his 

calmness, righteousness or illness, and this is something that is not 

in your hand. The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and 

peace be upon him, said, “Oh God, this is my right in what possess,

 so do not blame me with what you have nor do I possess.” Inside 

them jealousy, envy, and hatred for their brother.

When your child performs a wrong behavior, make it clear to him 

that he has sinned and also explain the correct behavior to him 

before you punish him and give him warnings if he repeats

 the wrong behavior several times and that he will be punished if he

 repeats it and if he does not respond then start implementing the 

appropriate punishment for the behavior is not greater or smaller.

When your children quarrel, you must be wise and fair with one 

another, and not favor one of them and ask them for solutions to the

 problem after you hear each of them.

 Focus on the positive behavior your child is doing and praise him 

in front of everyone. This makes him proud of himself and will 

always try to do whatever he likes to satisfy you.

Set aside time for you with the family, sit with your children and 

listen to their stories, for a quiet family atmosphere combines

 hearts with calm, comfort and tranquility in the hearts of 

your children and will have a beautiful impact and memory in their 

minds in the near and distant future.

Play with them and share their games and interests with them and 

don't be surprised by them.